Current location:	Atlanta, Georgia, US
Current mood:	aggravated
Entry tags:	guys, karma

Advice to all single Indian dudes
Just friggin' stop it!

Look this is not about me. But, there are many eligible nice guys out
there who would rather prefer to find/meet the girl they want to
settle down in their life by themselves and not take the arranged
marriage route.

I know a few themselves and I would glad recommend to single girls
looking for simple, unpretentious, nice-guys (will I be at the top of
the recommendation? I can't tell you that! :).

The situation for such guys is already bleak, given the current
marital policy of our Indian society, which seems to overall encourage
arranged marriages.

And I also have heard from a couple of girls who were pretty much
stalked, harassed or otherwise annoyed by single losers who are
enterprising enough not to give up in their chase.

Now, I feel it is perfectly OK to pleasantly/politely inform your
intention to the girl you are interested in when you feel like (when
you feel confident of getting a positive response, for example). But,
just ONCE!

Here's what I have to say about that:

1. Please, for the love of god, try to empathize with the very person
whom you are so desperately trying to woo. If you do, you'll know you
are giving them pain, anguish and they don't want that! So, give up
and move on or be smart enough to woo them without making their life
miserable (which means - not accosting them, not soliciting anything,
not being a douche bag. get it?)

2. Girls are wonderful people in general. I don't understand them
(most men will concur that they don't either!). But, they are to be
respected as equals. Do not take advantage of them just because they
are being nice or timid in their rebuke. Believe me, from what I
understand, they can make your life hell, if they decide too :)

3. By scaring these girls, you are doing a disservice not only to the
girl but to all those eligible nice guys! I believe, a girl who has
gone/is going through such a traumatic experience might be negatively
biased (skeptical) towards interactions with any of those eligible
nice guys (in general). Thus, all you are doing is to expand the rift
and spoiling the chances of those guys!

So, stop being a criminal. Stop screwing up the society, a girl's
mental peace and your chance of karma/heaven.
For once, if you cannot be a nice guy, at least stop making it worse
for the nice guys.